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Pretty sure everyone has experienced this at some point in their life. Someone said something to you, and you felt “weird” and uncomfortable. After what was being said to you, you might probably go, “hmm wait, why did he/she say that?” If you are a HSP (highly sensitive person), you will likely dwell on what was said repeatedly and struggle to move on.

Let me briefly touch on HSP and if you can relate to these you could be a HSP too:

1. You absorb other’s emotions and it sometimes drains you.
2. You notice small details that other’s overlook
3. You dwell on the negative opinions and struggle to “let go”
4. You are deep thinker and gets lost in thoughts a lot
5. It takes you a long time to adjust to changes
6. You feel overwhelmed by bright lights, loud noises and crowded places

Back to the topic, I personally feel that we should be more aware of our word selections. Sometimes we might be joking with others, but they might not find it funny. We may have already hurt them unintentionally.

I recently read this and it said that, The power of words lies in their meaning and interpretation. That is also the power of life. For instance, if someone puts us down with their words, we consciously control our take on whether what was said is positive or negative. Although their words might hold power over us, we also have the ability to reframe the meaning and cultivate a positive interpretation of nearly all events in our life.

Swimming in Words

We are constantly interacting with others and ourselves with language. How do we interact with ourselves you might ask? Self-talk such as “I can definitely ace this test” or “Oh no, I don’t think my partner will like it if I decide to go ahead and do this.” are examples of how we interact with ourselves. We take what we hear with others, from the media, and ingest these words which slowly became the way we express ourselves.

However, we might not take on an active role in choosing the words, a.k.a word selection. We usually speak without thinking of the force that flows our speech and allow the power of other’s words to bring all kinds of emotional energy to us.

Victims of Words

Most of us are victims of the power of words and the solution is to be architects where we can carefully choose the words to express, and what emotional force we want to use to express these words. We can also focus on how the words of others affect us and practice greater self-love, and self-expression.

Take a step back, breathe. Allow yourself to look from the perspective of the speaker and reframe your thoughts.

“I am thankful for his/her words as this is an opportunity to remind me to be mindful of my speech when speaking to others and this is also a chance for me to grow and learn to let go.”

Instead of manifesting those hurtful words, say this, “I believe I will feel better and I am worthy.”

Let’s make the world a better place~

Let’s be mindful of our choice of words and use more positive words, spread the positive vibes! Create the ripple effect! Be kind! 

We can start by surrounding ourselves with positive, uplifting words. Put affirmations on sticker notes around your house/ office. Or you can also download an app that gives you affirmations on a notification basis such as the “I am” app. As you keep doing these things, these positive energy will be generating you and you will be wearing positivity all day~

Words can inspire. And words can destroy. Choose yours well.

Robin sharma

Corlissa Seah, Counsellor & Founder of Vibe Check Practice
Providing online therapy to support mental health and well-being

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