Life is such an amazing journey, isn’t it? Every single one of us is different, though, and we all walk our own unique path. Some of us are on a straight, well-paved road to success, while others of us might find ourselves on a winding path, with unexpected detours, roadblocks and crossroads where we have to make really difficult choices. It’s completely normal to feel a bit anxious, or to have self-doubt now and again, but remember that you’re not alone and there’s always a way through.
The Pressure of a “Right” Path
Society tends to make us think there’s a “right” path to take in life: get an education, build a career, find love, start a family, and then retire when you’re older. But let’s be real for a moment — how many of us have set deadlines in our heads? Start a career by 25. Get married by 27. Have kids by 30. Achieve financial freedom by 50?
We create these milestones in our lives, either because they’ve been ingrained in us since we were young or because we see others achieving them and it inspires us. But when reality doesn’t match up to these expectations, it’s only natural to feel a bit lost or inadequate. Seeing friends and peers seemingly progressing while you feel stuck can lead to some really important questions about life and purpose. Am I doing this right? What if I made the wrong choice? Does my life have meaning?
The truth is, life isn’t a single highway with clear road signs—it’s an intricate web of possible routes. There’s no universal timeline or fixed formula for success. Some people find love at 40, some change careers at 50, and some only achieve success after failing a few times. Comparing your journey to others only deepens feelings of dissatisfaction. Instead, embracing your unique path can help relieve some of that mental burden.
The Mental Toll of Uncertainty
Uncertainty about the future can fuel anxiety and even existential despair. In a world that glorifies certainty—career milestones, life achievements, and long-term planning, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed when things are uncertain.
This fear can manifest as:
- Overthinking past decisions — “What if I had done things differently?”
- Feeling stuck in analysis paralysis —“I don’t know which way to go, so I do nothing.”
- Comparing oneself to others –“They have it all figured out, why don’t I?”
It’s totally normal to feel a bit lost sometimes, like your life doesn’t really have a purpose. But that’s when you have the chance to grow and find your true path.
Finding Peace in Your Own Route
- Accept That Uncertainty is Part of Life
- No one has it all figured out. The most successful people often change directions multiple times before finding fulfillment. Accepting the unknown as a natural part of life can reduce stress and anxiety.
- Redefine Success
- Forget about societal standards. Define what fulfilment means to you. It might not be a high-paying job or a picture-perfect family. It could be personal growth, meaningful connections, or simply enjoying the present moment.
- Practice Self-Compassion
- Being kind to yourself during moments of doubt can make all the difference. It’s okay to make mistakes, change your mind, and take detours. Growth often comes from the unexpected turns.
- Seek Support
- Talking to friends, mentors, or mental health professionals can provide clarity and reassurance. You’re not alone in your struggles—everyone is figuring things out in their own way.
We all know life can be a bit of a rollercoaster, right? But it’s exactly that unpredictability that makes each of our journeys so unique and special. And while it’s true that uncertainty can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming, it’s also a beautiful opportunity to explore, learn, and create your own unique meaning. There’s no one “right” way to live, only the path that feels right for you. So, whether you’re just starting out on your journey or you’re already feeling like you’re on the right one, remember that you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.
It is not the path which is the difficulty; rather, it is the difficulty which is the path.
Søren Kierkegaard
Corlissa Seah, Counsellor & Founder of Vibe Check Practice
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